It rained on my wedding day. I sat in the chair of the salon getting my hair done, pestering my maid of honour to pop her head outside and give me an update on the ominous black cloud that had been working its way toward us. I had my fingers and toes crossed that it would shift and move in the other direction at the last minute.
My wedding was not going to take place in the beautiful gazebo as I had planned. It was going to have to take place on the covered patio of an Italian restaurant, the only rain sheltered venue on the resort.
The night before our wedding Mr. C. and I had a fight. Family tensions that had been building came to a head and we fought, big. I remember wondering if the rain was somehow a sign.
Things weren’t going as planned.
Yet, on the afternoon of November 8, 2007, I stood there, about to walk down the aisle, and I looked up at my soon to be husband and knew, deep down in my soul, that I was making the right decision. I knew that our path would not always be filled with sunshine but I was confident that I wanted to face the clouds that may sometimes cover our path, together.
When I was young, naïve and unmarried I had a vision of what marriage should be and it may possibly have looked something like a Nicolas Sparks movie.
It turns out that marriage is nothing like a Nicolas Sparks movie.
Life can be hard, mundane, boring, frustrating and beautiful. The success of my marriage should not be measured by how perfect our life is, because it’s not. The success of my marriage should be measured on how we handle ourselves when things don’t go as planned.
My marriage is successful because we fight. Yep, we do fight, and sometimes it gets ugly, but we work through it. We learn from it. We move forward because of it.
My marriage is successful because we can create romance out of the most mundane. When Mr. C hugs me from behind while I’m doing the dishes and I see my kids smile at his gesture, it feels more romantic than 100 candle lit dinners.
My marriage is successful because when life kicks us in the ass and knocks us over, we help each other up.
My marriage is successful because when one of us can’t stand up by ourselves the other is always there to lean on.
My marriage is successful because we have fun together. Laugh until you cry and your stomach hurts kind of fun.
My marriage is successful because we are on each other’s team.
It’s been 7 years since that rainy day and I couldn’t be happier. My marriage isn’t always sunshine and roses but it’s real and I love real.
I also know that my marriage is successful today, but it might not be tomorrow. We have good days and bad days and every single day my marriage teaches me something new.
7 years ago, just as I was about to walk down the aisle, the rain stopped, the clouds parted and the sun started to peak out. The sun shone down on us as we promised each other our lives.
Happy Anniversary my Mr. C! I love you more today than I did the day I said I do. Thank you for keeping the promise you made me. You add beauty to my life every day. Growing old with you is going to be so much fun.